Pan-African psychologist Dr. Umar Johnson exonerated Black women of all blame for their self-sufficiency attitude and informed parochial Black men of how they’re to blame for it.
While debating Black love on the Daily Rap Up Crew podcast, one of the podcast hosts cited Black women’s hyper-independent mindset or the “I don’t need a man” perspective. Dr. Umar stated that Black women developed that mindset out of the pain of believing they’d never get married.
The podcast co-hosts happily agreed with Dr. Umar when he contended that the Black woman’s tone and attitude when in a relationship with a Black man mattered. However, he shut them up when he professed that the Black man held much responsibility for their hyper-independence.
“We try to act like the way sisters treat us doesn’t have a history that we are not at least partly responsible for,” the psychologist preached. “Let’s be honest. The Black woman has had to hold down the Black house by herself, although imperfectly, she’s had to do it by herself since the mass incarceration of Black males began in the 1970s.”
The doctor hit the nail right on the head when he exclaimed, “So, when a sister says, ‘I don’t need a man,’ ’cause she couldn’t find one strong enough to hold her down. Or when you meet a woman and you say, ‘Sister, I’m strong enough to be a man. You ain’t got to work, or you ain’t got to pay the bills or whatever…she can’t do it because all the other men before you who disappointed her.”
A co-host questioned if Black men were liable for Black women’s poor selection. Dr. Umar clarified that Black men engendered the deficiency of good potential male partners for Black women.
“Black men are not raising Black boys to be the men our community needs,” he stated. “You don’t think the Black woman got a right to be angry when she been raising two-thirds of the kids by herself for 50 years? And the minute she raise her voice, we say she’s not humble enough?!”
The motivational speaker educated the co-hosts about the origin of the Black woman’s “masculinity,” reminding them of the domestic abuse, rape and molestation Black men subjected them to.
One co-host blamed women for selecting poor men, referring to those types of men as “Pookie.”
“Imma tell you why there’s a pookie in the selection,” he began. “Black men have abandoned Black boys and have allowed social media, white media, athletes and rappers to raise them. That’s why she’s with Pookie.”
He continued, “If we’re going to be men, the first thing we got to do is take responsibility for why our women feel the way they feel.”
Dr. Umar emphasized the importance of men taking accountability and action to produce a better generation of men.
“…we are complaining about the women who are making babies with the irresponsible men that we didn’t raise correctly. That’s bulls**t! That’s wimp-ass, weak man s**t! Take responsibility for our s**t. Stop scapegoating them [Black women].”
